Relationships
"With Asperger's, life is a stage," Attwood
said. "The curtain goes up while they are in public and down when they are at
home. Because other people do not see the problem, they question your
sanity--you are on your own. In some families, denial has held the family
together for generations, and you want to bring down the scaffolding."
--Tony Attwood, leading expert on AS
We at ASPIRES believe these relationships are a
challenge for both parties and are committed to providing balance to our readers
from all sides. Unfortunately, most of the material is from non spectrum
partners, but that is changing and we are pleased to able to post the AS
perspective as well. Every person is unique as well as every relationship,
so many articles or parts of them may or may not apply to your unique
relationship. We encourage anyone share their story and submit it for
publication on our site. ...ASPIRES
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Advocating for
Victims of Asperger's Syndrome /
Cape Cod's Karen Rodman turns a personal struggle
into a decade-long crusade to help families dealing with this type of
autistic condition. Ten years ago Karen Rodman
was a lonely hunter, wondering why her husband couldn't communicate
emotions if his life depended upon it,
by Cynthia McCormick - 10/2004 |
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AS
Quotes on Relationships |
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Asperger Syndrome and Adults by The Better Health Channel -
"Dutch research suggests that the
divorce rate for people with Asperger syndrome is around 80 per cent." |
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Asperger Syndrome in the
Counselling Room by Maxine Aston |
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ASPIE Love - Questions
and Answers. An interview with an AS man. |
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Autism and your
marriage - What is the effect on marriage once a disability in a
child has entered the equation? Unfortunately it becomes, instead of
something that can bind a couple together, a factor that causes stress.
Extreme stress and often the marriage is a victim of that stress and
fails. But why? by
Adelle Jameson Tilton |
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Autism, Dating
and Socialization |
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'Singles' Dating Sites
and the Spectrum |
| Confusion
- This is written by a Danish woman who has been married more than 30 years
to a husband who just recently discovered and disclosed his having
Asperger Syndrome. |
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Counseling AS Adults - It's all in the process by Roger N. Meyer |
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Dating, Marriage & Autism by Stephen Shore |
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Do People with
Asperger's Syndrome Have Empathy? - Relationships With People on The
Spectrum |
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Encounters
with Asperger Syndrome in the Solicitor's Office By Dr. Venetia Young,
Family Therapist |
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How to
Start a Therapeutic Relationship - The following Email exchange
illustrates the typical problem an adult with AS has when encountering a
counseling professional. The therapist holds a Ph.D. and an MSW. Knowing
that he would benefit from cognitive behavioral work, he sought her out
based upon her representations and experience as a CBT specialist.
By Roger N. Meyer |
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Information for partners of people with Asperger syndrome - NAS / UK |
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In-Laws and Your ASD Child - Have Your In-Laws Turned Your Life
Upside-Down? by
Adelle Jameson Tilton |
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Issues for partners of people with Asperger syndrome - NAS / UK |
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Life, love and autism: A tale of one couple's journey - Pioneer
Press |
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Living with Asperger Syndrome by Maxine Aston and Ruth Forrester
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Love & Asperger's
Syndrome - A Personal View by AS Wives |
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Matrimonial Affairs / Family Law Section - In this article, the Simcoe
County Family
Law Lawyers’ Association hopes to outline for you how Family Court once
operated in our County and then recount its gradual decline. In so
doing, we admit our bias in favour of a “specialized” family law system of
dispute resolution, designed to resolve family law disputes.
in the least damaging manner.
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Okay, So I’m a Little Different... How do I Keep a Relationship? |
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On
Understanding Body Language by Sandra Williams |
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"Perspectives: How Individuals with Asperger's Syndrome Often View
Neurotypical Individuals" - In a recent article about Asperger's
Syndrome, an adult with AS was quoted as complaining that neurotypical
adults are "unpredictable, fickle and emotional." This fascinating
comment reveals a great deal about the thinking of adults with AS and
their feelings about NT family members. A little thought about this
quote may give the reader some insight into the irony of mindblindness,
and its heartrending effect on those who care for individuals with AS. -
FAAAS, Inc., 2005 |
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Please, Learn About Asperger Syndrome And Give Hope to
Non-AS Spouses
By C.R.D., Seattle |
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The dark side of autism by by Machou, a bipolar (manic
depressive) woman who shares the difficulties she faced in having a
husband and son, both of whom share the symptoms of Asperger syndrome and
both refuse to get a diagnosis. NAS/UK |
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Monogamy gene? - "Humans and their relationships, obviously, are bit
more complex. But the research could have great implications for
individuals with autism or Asperger's Syndrome, disorders that impair
social behavior. "It's conceivable that some defect in some gene would
turn out to be an explanation for some of those syndromes," said Melvin
Konner, a professor of psychology and neurology at Emory who wrote an
article commenting on Young's research," by The Hartford Courant |
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The
Relationship Factor: When Special Needs Challenge a Household by Cindy N.
Ariel, Ph.D. and Robert Naseef, Ph.D. |
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The Sheffield Counselling Service for People with Autism and Asperger
Syndrome by Sue Prestwood |
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Transcript of
Pratical Strategies to Help Partners of People with Asperger Syndrome /
Recorded by the NAS in London on March 22, 1999 with Dr. Tony Attwood |
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Transcript of a
Workshop for Partners of People with Asperger's Syndrome - Tony Attwood &
Brenda Wall , May 2, 2000 - Coventry, England |
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... well, he's just lovely by Melaine! - NAS/UK |
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Tony Attwood - Asperger Syndrome and relationships - available in
audio or text |
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Why We Can't Just Marry Them All Off by Jerry Newport |
Some
are the melody, some are the rhythm, some are the harmony